Judaism and Drinking (Printed in Cornelius Today)

April 15th, 2010

Judaism is not against the consumption of alcohol. Wine has served an important symbolic function within Jewish tradition for thousands of years, and every Friday evening Jews bless God thanking her for the fruit of the vine. The ‘everything in moderation’ rule is applied as the great Jewish thinker Maimonides wrote: Keeping the body fit and healthy is part of serving God, for it is impossible to know and understand anything of the Creator’s will if one is ill. Therefore a person should avoid whatever undermines bodily health.

A warning against alcohol abuse can be found in Proverbs 23:18 — Show me someone who drinks too much, who has tried to cut out some new drink, and I will show you someone miserable and sorry for himself. … His eyes are bloodshot and he has bruises that could have been avoided. Don’t let wine tempt you. The next morning you will feel as though you have been bitten by a poisonous snake.

• The use of intoxicants (alcohol) and drugs is not forbidden in Judaism.

• Wine is an important symbol of God providing for his chosen people.

• The importance of moderation is emphasized.

• Abuse of drugs or intoxicants is frowned upon and is ultimately a rejection of the gift of life.”

Yom HaShoah – Holocaust Remembrance Day (Progressive/Reform and Conservative Jews come together with their neighbors)

April 11th, 2010
The program will be held at St. Albans Episcopal Church in Davidson on Sunday, April 18th
The doors will open at 2:45 PM with music and an original art display of Holocaust images by Aron
Lebedinsky
The program begins at 3:00 with a candle lighting ceremony and brief opening comments from Rabbi
Corey Helfand.
This is the 3rd annual Yom Hashoah Holocaust Remembrance program. It is presented by Beth
Shalom of Lake Norman and interfaith partner, St. Albans Episcopal Church
The guest speaker will be Dr. Susan Spatz. Dr. Spatz is a Professor Emerita at UNCC, Charlotte and
lectures on Holocaust literature and history. She has lectured overseas and has authored books and
articles on the Holocaust. Dr. Spatz spent three years fighting for her life as a Jewish prisoner in
Concentration Camps during the Holocaust Despite the pain and suffering that Dr. Spatz experienced
during the Holocaust, she has vowed to never forget. She said she thinks it is important to share her
story to all ages, but she focuses on today’s youth because they are the ones who will keep the
Holocaust from becoming a forgotten memory.
There will be time for questions after her presentation

On Sunday April 18th at 2:45pm at St. Albans Episcopal Church in Davidson, the Jewish community at Lake Norman is gathering to mark Yom HaShoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day with our neighbors.

The doors will open at 2:45 PM with music and an original art display of Holocaust images by Aron Lebedinsky. The program begins at 3:00 with a candle lighting ceremony and brief opening comments from rabbinical intern, Corey Helfand of Beth Shalom, and Rabbi Michael Shields of the Lake Norman Jewish Congregation.

The guest speaker will be Dr. Susan Spatz. Dr. Spatz is a Professor Emerita at UNCC, Charlotte and lectures on Holocaust literature and history. She has lectured overseas and has authored books and articles on the Holocaust. Dr. Spatz spent three years fighting for her life as a Jewish prisoner in Concentration Camps during the Holocaust Despite the pain and suffering that Dr. Spatz experienced during the Holocaust, she has vowed to never forget. She said she thinks it is important to share her story to all ages, but she focuses on today’s youth because they are the ones who will keep the Holocaust from becoming a forgotten memory.

Commemorating those lost in the Holocaust is a sacred obligation of our Jewish community. As the full-time Rabbinical presence in the Lake Norman region, I would like to thank our Conservative brothers and sisters at Beth Shalom for taking the lead in organizing this event.

As I have said in the past, it is a blessing to have the diversity in the Jewish community at the Lake; the conservative/more traditional presence of Beth Shalom and the Progressive/Reform presence of the Lake Norman Jewish Congregation. I look forward to welcoming the future student rabbis from Jewish Theological Seminary who journey down to Davidson one weekend every month to further their education and serve the Conservative Movement.

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From http://urj.org/holidays/hashoah/

Yom HaShoah, also known as Holocaust Remembrance Day, occurs on the 27th of NissanShoah, which means catastrophe or utter destruction in Hebrew, refers to the atrocities that were committed against the Jewish people during World War II. This is a memorial day for those who died in the Shoah.

The Shoah (also known as the Holocaust, from a Greek word meaning “sacrifice by fire,”) was initiated by the members of the National Socialist (Nazi) Party, which seized power in Germany in 1933. The Nazis believed in a doctrine of racial superiority, centering around the idea that that people of Northern European descent were somehow better than members of all other races – especially the Jews, who were “unworthy of life.”

After taking power, the Nazis gradually restricted the rights of German Jewish citizens and encouraged their followers to commit acts of violence and destruction against Jews and their property. During World War II (1939-1945), the Nazis implemented their “final solution,” a plan to concentrate and annihilate all European Jews. Jews were first crammed together in ghettoes and slave-labor camps, where disease, brutality, and malnutrition ran rampant. Eventually, they were sent to death camps, where millions were murdered in special facilities designed to kill a tremendous number of people over a brief period of time. In addition to the six million Jews who died – two-thirds of the European Jewish population – the Nazis also killed millions of others, including Roma (Gypsies) and Slavs, political and religious dissidents, the handicapped, and gays and lesbians.

Today, many commemorate Yom HaShoah by lighting yellow candles in order to keep the memories of the victims alive. The National Federation of Temple Brotherhoods co-sponsors such a program; you can find out more on their website. Most synagogues and Jewish communities gather together to commemorate the day through worship, music and the stories from survivors.

Other Holocaust Websites:

Yad Vashem: The Jewish People’s Living Memorial to the Holocaust - http://www.yadvashem.org/

United States Holocaust Museum - http://www.ushmm.org/

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/36337443/ns/health-picture_stories/displaymode/1247/?beginSlide=1

http://archives.cnn.com/2002/WORLD/meast/04/09/holocaust.memorial.day/index.html

http://www.cnn.com/WORLD/9705/04/briefs/yom.hashoah.index.html?iref=allsearch

Moving from a mentality of Survival to one of Empowerment

April 8th, 2010

In the book, Empowered Judaism by Rabbi Elie Kaunfer, Rabbi Kaunfer posits that the real crisis is one of meaning and engagement.  Jews and their family members, whether Jewish or not, often find it difficult to connect to the community, Torah, Jewish practice or values.  As Kaunfer writes: “They are dependent on others to translate Judaism for them, and they trudge to High Holy Day services to receive the requisite “be good!” sermons, only to return to their lives unchallenged and unchanged. They have been sold a world in which Judaism is a bunch of platitudes, at best matching their existing modern liberal values (but adding nothing beyond what they already know), and at worst completely irrelevant to the struggles they experience day to day. Who can blame these Jews for disengaging with Judaism?” (p. 157)

Rabbi Kaunfer rightly points out that people want deep meaning and connection, “but they move through life thinking of Judaism’s contribution to the world as Seinfeld and guilt.  Many would be shocked to find out that Judaism has vigorous debates about the most central existential problems facing people today.” (p. 158)

Over the next months and years, our community (The Lake Norman Jewish Congregation) will make defining choices that will determine whether we will be a community that seeks to uncover the power and mystery of tradition firsthand, or one that embraces the superficial platitudes that dominate many liberal Jewish congregations.

When we refuse to undersell and water down our Judaism and instead reinvigorate it by building a more educated, more engaged, more inspired, we will recognize that a new Jewish world is possible. We will have the imagination and vision to move beyond a simplistic and anemic “survival” mentality to an Empowered Judaism.

The Pain of Losing A Spouse is Singular (Issues around Sacred Aging)

April 6th, 2010

A recent article in the New York Times, The Pain of Losing a Spouse Is Singular, delves into the issues of loss surrounding the death of a spouse.  Here is the opening paragraph and the link for the article:

As my husband of 43 years approached the end of his life and the anguish within me welled like a dam ready to burst, I realized something both simplistic and profound – losing a spouse is nothing like losing a parent.

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/04/06/health/06cases.html?ref=todayspaper

For other resources and articles about Sacred Aging check out:  http://www.jewishsacredaging.com/

Transforming Committees into Teams – Community Vision and Attitude

April 5th, 2010

(adapted from Empowered Judaism by Rabbi Elie Kaunfer)

The Lake Norman Jewish Congregation (www.lakenormanjc.org) is developing this collaborative model of leadership. It will help us develop into a dynamic, flexible, and inspirational community.

I hope community members will read the following and consider it seriously as we continue to build and grow.

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Expanding organizations need a broader group of committed volunteers to carry out the many tasks of organizing our community. To expand the leadership and create a pipeline for future gabbaim and other key leaders, a layer needs to be added to the structure – A Leadership Team. (Everything should be called a team rather than a committee…After all, no one likes committee meetings, but everyone wants to be part of the team!)

To join the Leadership Team, people didn’t simply opt in. They were asked to apply. This was in some ways heresy (”How can you ask people who aren’t be paid to apply for a volunteer job in their own community?”), but we wanted (want) people to take their volunteer role seriously, and if they couldn’t (can’t) commit to writing something about their goals, then they might not be right for the job.  We asked them two questions on the “application”:  1) What is your vision for the organization?  and 2) In what ways could our congregation be improved?  Though we almost never (will never) rejected an application, the process served to elevate the status of the volunteer job and make it something people had to seek out and exert some effort to acquire.

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Passover at Lake Norman

March 31st, 2010

The Jewish People gather every year at this time to remember and relive the story of our people, the Exodus from Egypt. The message of this story is that oppression wherever it rears its head can and must end.  Through a sacred partnership with God, individuals and communities can redeem the world. The Exodus story hopefully inspires us to vision of the world as it might yet look and work towards that vision every day.

This past Monday and Tuesday more than 260 people gathered for Passover. On Monday, nearly all of the 75 Jewish students at Davidson College gathered together with friends, faculty, staff, and honored guests to welcome the Festival of Matzot.  It would have been unthinkable 10 years ago that 130 people would gather on the Davidson College campus for a Passover Seder.  It reflects the increasing diversity at the College and the significant growth of the Jewish population at Davidson.

On Tuesday, more than 120 people celebrated Passover with the Lake Norman Jewish Congregation (www.lakenormanjc.org).  90 adults and 36 children of all ages prayed, sang, laughed, and of course ate together as they commemorated the sacred story of the Jewish People. This community seder reflects the dramatic growth in the Jewish community over the past three years. The Lake Norman Jewish Congregation has grown from 55 families to nearly 120 families.  Our school has grown from 25 students to more than 75 students.  We are truly blessed.

I hope all will feel welcome to join me in marking the end of Passover with Pizza and Pilsners with Rabbi Shields” at the Brickhouse in Davidson (209 Delburg St.) on Tuesday October 6 at 8pm.

http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=365517053815&ref=ts

All are welcome!

Partnership is Community.

March 17th, 2010

The Jewish Community in the Lake Norman and North Charlotte region is growing. As a new community we have a unique opportunity to fashion a community that will embrace the many new innovations that have emerged in Judaism in the last decade. We can maintain meaningful liberal traditions and practices, reclaim and reframe traditional Jewish practices in our liberal religious context.  Most importantly, we can see every person in the community as partners in this exhilarating creation process.

Partnership is the most important word. As the Rabbi I want partners not members.  Partners help to build.  They invest their time and/or their resources. In my mind the title, “member” connotes  a private club whose members are served. They pay their fee and get ‘a’, ‘b’, and ‘c.’

In our congregation, it is true that I play a role as the Rabbi of the community; I teach, I facilitate worship, I provide guidance when appropriate. But without partners, our community will fail. Each of us brings are unique gifts to our shared table.  Our successes as a community have proven that though we still call it “membership,” we are truly partners in an exciting creation.  This is why we ask everyone to pledge financially what they are able, but honor all who wish to join us on our search for spiritual meaning through a welcoming Jewish community.

We have 75 religious school students in 8 classes who gather every Sunday to learn what it means to be Jewish.  We have 15 middle school kids that will lead our youth group movement. More than 60 people are spread over 10 committees.  Nearly 100 people from the congregation are coming together for our community seder.

I am so blessed to have sacred partners.  Please partner with us as we continue to grow, moving rapidly towards a home of our own.

Bringing the Torah to Life and/or Bringing Life to the Torah

March 17th, 2010

At a session I attended at the recent Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) Convention, we discussed our relationship with Torah.  Do we find greater meaning in our lives through the study of Torah? Or, do our lives impact how we view the text? Do we see ourselves in the text and in that way find comfort or holiness in ourselves because we share many of the same strengths, weaknesses, insecurities, flaws found in the Biblical characters?

I believe it is some combination of the two positions.  The text of our tradition and the text of our lives are traveling along the same road. Sometimes the flow of Torah infuses our lives with meaning and sometimes the river of our lives flows into the Torah, bringing it to life.  The intertwining and flows of Torah and our lives can be an exciting dance.

Just some thoughts…..

The Well Connected Rabbi and Congregation

March 13th, 2010

Social media is the wave of the future. A session at the most recent CCAR Convention challenged us to explore how Facebook and other social media can be entry-points for community and tools to increase connection.

Facebook (twitter, etc. etc) is a river. While it is difficult to have a constant stream of information flowing by, through, and around us, if we do not enter the stream, then we will not be able to meet our congregants when they choose to “dip” in to the great Facebook river.

Facebook is a conduit for connection and is often less “scary” as a first point of contact than a synagogue or a formal Jewish educational experience.  It is another way that people in every generation can link in to “their people,”  Am-LNJC (The People of the Lake Norman Jewish Congregation), and therefore also the larger Jewish People.

So, congregants, please join Facebook and link with me.  Join our community’s facebook group. Help us share the dynamic congregation we are literally building.

I hope to use Facebook to enhance our communal impact here in the Lake Norman and Charlotte region, and across North Carolina. When people are thinking about a geographical move, they should know that a new, loving community is based here in Davidson.

Some links to have:

Our Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=56271990719&ref=ts

My Blog, The Lake Norman Rabbi: www.mjshields.com

Our Causes Page on Facebook:  http://apps.facebook.com/causes/birthdays/286147?m=d1bec4b9

The Reform Congregation of Lake Norman

March 4th, 2010

I feel so lucky to be the full-time rabbi of the Reform Congregation in Lake Norman (www.lakenormanjc.org) but also to be a part of a community in the Lake Norman region that is blessed with a liberal/Reform and a conservative choice.

If one is a Conservative Jew, Beth Shalom of Lake Norman can provide an intimate setting in which more traditional and ritually conservative Jews can connect and find support in navigating the ins and outs of Conservative Judaism (dietary laws, halakhah, t’fillin, mikveh, etc.)

Our Reform/liberal Congregation (as written in the Movement’s Statement of Principles) enables  the Jewish People and individuals to embrace “innovation while preserving tradition, to embrace diversity while asserting commonality, to affirm beliefs without rejecting those who doubt, and to bring faith to sacred texts without sacrificing critical scholarship.”

Reform Judaism recognizes the realities that Jews face in the 21st century, and seeks to facilitate authentic connection with Jewish culture, religion, and tradition.  Reform Judaism helps individuals and families as they strive for religious meaning, moral purpose and a sense of community.

See the following link for the full “Statement of Principles of the Reform Movement” adopted in Pittsburgh in 1999.

http://ccarnet.org/Articles/index.cfm?id=44&pge_prg_id=4687&pge_id=1656

An Excerpt from “A Commentary on the Principles of Reform Judaism”

The rise in mixed marriage and the embrace of Jews of patrilineal descent (children of one Jewish parent who were raised as Jews) had changed the demographics of the Reform Movement, contributing to a growing desire for increased learning, spiritual expression, and guidelines for Reform ideology. Women’s increased influence in the Movement (from three women ordained in 1976 the number had grown to over 250 by 1999) had changed much of the language and approach of Reform, and the Movement had pioneered in opening doors of Jewish life (including ordination) to gay and lesbian Jews.

Reform Judaism is moving forward and can lead the way in revitalizing Judaism in the 21st century.

Reform Judaism is committed to:

The complete equality of women and men in Jewish life.

Reaching out to all Jews across ideological and geographical boundaries.

Inclusivity: providing a home for all who seek a Jewish experience.  Our movement is enriched by those who choose to convert to Judaism and the non-Jewish partners raising Jewish children.

For the full text see:  http://ccarnet.org/Articles/index.cfm?id=45&pge_prg_id=4687&pge_id=1656

I look forward to the months and years ahead as we build a vibrant Jewish congregation, with a home of our own, in the Lake Norman and North Charlotte region.  Join us on this adventure: www.lakenormanjc.org.

If you are looking for a conservative congregation Beth Shalom of Lake Norman is a loving and warm congregation: www.bslkn.org