Archive for the ‘Questions posed by Cornelius Today’ Category

Divorce in Judaism (as printed in Cornelius Today)

Thursday, July 22nd, 2010

The Talmud, a record of rabbinic discussion, considers divorce a sad occurrence. However, it also recognizes that sometimes the parties in marriage are no longer compatible.  Traditionally, according to the Talmud, divorce could be given by a man for any reason.

The Reform movement has consistently asserted that marriage and divorce are subject to the laws of the land in which Jews reside.  The theologically more liberal movements of Judaism value the sacred bonds of partnership/marriage, but also recognize that divorce is sometimes the best and only remedy for an unhealthy relationship.

I believe our focus should shift to pre-marriage. The divorce rate for those who marry at twenty-one or twenty-two is double that of those who marry in their mid-twenties. We must encourage couples to take the time developmentally to “grow into themselves.” As a member of the clergy, I am in the business of marriage. However, I must be guided both by my religion and by the realities of our world and my knowledge of human development. Liberal Judaism recognizes the sanctity of marriage, but also the profound commitment that partnership entails.

Shalom Lake Norman,

Rabbi  Michael Shields

Judaism and Drinking (Printed in Cornelius Today)

Thursday, April 15th, 2010

Judaism is not against the consumption of alcohol. Wine has served an important symbolic function within Jewish tradition for thousands of years, and every Friday evening Jews bless God thanking her for the fruit of the vine. The ‘everything in moderation’ rule is applied as the great Jewish thinker Maimonides wrote: Keeping the body fit and healthy is part of serving God, for it is impossible to know and understand anything of the Creator’s will if one is ill. Therefore a person should avoid whatever undermines bodily health.

A warning against alcohol abuse can be found in Proverbs 23:18 — Show me someone who drinks too much, who has tried to cut out some new drink, and I will show you someone miserable and sorry for himself. … His eyes are bloodshot and he has bruises that could have been avoided. Don’t let wine tempt you. The next morning you will feel as though you have been bitten by a poisonous snake.

• The use of intoxicants (alcohol) and drugs is not forbidden in Judaism.

• Wine is an important symbol of God providing for his chosen people.

• The importance of moderation is emphasized.

• Abuse of drugs or intoxicants is frowned upon and is ultimately a rejection of the gift of life.”

Miracles

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

“The early Rabbis (200-600 AD) affirmed the truth of the miracles in the Bible, yet still had trouble accepting miracles that violated the laws of nature. They resolved this tension by explaining that the miracles were in fact natural events engineered by God. For example, God planned the earthquake that would bring down the walls of Jericho. Some Jewish thinkers (Saadiah Gaon and Maimonides) posited that descriptions of miracles were not meant to be taken literally. They were instead meant to reflect a prophetic experience of dream or vision. We can view miracles in the Bible in a metaphorical or allegorical manner.

On a practical level, I personally believe that we bring about miraculous events through our partnership with others and our sense of holiness (God) in our lives as we perform sacred acts of Tikkun Olam (repairing the world). Miracles require that we do our part. ‘Pray as if everything depends on God but then act as if everything depends on you.’”

Searching for your Spiritual Self – Healthy Spiritual Living

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

When the New Year comes, many people think about starting an exercise program, joining a book club or making some other self-improvement change. What do our clery suggest people resolve to do in the New Year?

There is some sort of disconnect between the question and the part of my response that Cornelius Today printed. Nevertheless, below are some thoughts on Living a Spiritual Life:

I would suggest people attempt to address some of the big spiritual questions in life.  A spiritual life is about looking at oneself and being willing to explore in some way the three fundamental questions we often obscure with all the ’stuff’ in our lives.

1) Why was I born? – Is there a plan for me? Who came up with it? Is it predetermined or do I have control?

2) Why must I die? – How is it decided who shall live and who shall die? How do I grapple with my own mortality on a daily basis?

3) Why am I here? — What is my purpose in the world?

No one religious tradition has an exclusive claim on the many truths in the world. I would challenge every person to wrestle with that which she cannot understand or explain. In order to deepen our spiritual life in the year to come, we must be willing to question all that we think we know, make room for new possibilities and engage in serious intellectual study.

Confronting Anger in ourselves and in others (Contribution to www.corneliustoday.com)

Sunday, October 18th, 2009

It’s pretty neat that two of the four entries in Cornelius Today Faith Question section are myself, Rabbi Michael Shields, and Beth Shalom’s Rabbinical Intern, Corey Helfand.  See Corey’s words below.

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Rabbi Michael Shields:

When we encounter anger both in ourselves and in others, it is important to realize that anger often comes from a place of pain. If we are able to access compassion as opposed to an equally antagonistic reaction, then we may emerge from the other side with greater joy and better relationships. A compassionate stance can send a message of caring and a desire to alleviate pain. The Koran, the Muslim holy book says that ‘Man was created weak.’ We often get pointlessly angry when our will is frustrated. This is simply a further manifestation of our inherent weakness. The Prophet Muhammed told his followers to sit down when they were angry so they would be less prone to striking the person with whom they are in conflict. I agree with this teaching. It’s easier to catch bees with honey than vinegar.”

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Corey Helfand:

None of us is a stranger to anger. We may regret our anger at times. Anger may be a signal that something is not right with our world. But if allowed to control us and have its way, anger can also damage us and those around us. Throughout history anger and angry people have caused a great deal of misery. Anger can also be a useful power to right wrongs if properly directed and controlled.

At the end of the Book of Exodus, God tells Moses to go down the mountain and reprimand the Israelites for building the Golden Calf. God shows his rage — his nostrils flare in anger, and he threatens to annihilate the ‘stiff-necked people,’ the nation that he had just redeemed from Egypt. Moses immediately pleads with God to spare his people. Moses calls on the God’s qualities of compassion, graciousness, kindness, and truth; a God slow to anger (Exodus 34:6). Anger is a natural emotion, one that we all experience, even God. Advice: Learn how to harness our anger and refocus our energy for growth and reflection. Learn to find balance between anger and self-restraint. As anger rises within, take a step back and think about the consequences. After expressing anger, create a space for the emotional reactions of others. Even God exercises kindness and compassion in times of anger.”

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Printed in Cornelius Today: www.corneliustoday.com

Helping Children Feel Secure in These Uncertain Times

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

What’s your advice for parents on how to make children feel secure in these uncertain times? (Posed to me by ‘Cornelius Today’)

Biblical Moses’ speech impediment caused him much angst. God listened and validated Moses’ feelings, and then offered some tangible assistance.

Three pieces of advice:

1) We can listen and validate our children’s feelings in much the same way.

2) Telling our children we love them unconditionally as much as we can is essential.

3) We can have faith in our children. They are often stronger and more resilient than we know.

Let a person always bend like a reed and not be hard like a cedar:
A reed grows in the water, its stem is flexible, and its roots are many.
All the winds in the world cannot uproot it, for it sways back and forth with them.
And when the winds cease to blow, the reed is still standing in its place.

Babylonian Talmud Ta’anit 20A

We are all resilient to different degrees. All of us however, can learn how to better manage life’s challenges, emerging less vulnerable to depression, despair or unhealthy ways of managing stress.

Thoughts about Illegal Immigrants

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

A question posed to me by ‘Cornelius Today:’  Some immigrant families and workers live in fear, worrying about the next raid that would separate parents and children, or how anti-immigrant sentiment will impact their families. Some U.S. citizens, on the other hand, worry about the impact undocumented immigrants have on the economy and the cost of social services. What message would you like to be part of the public dialog on immigration?

The Religious Action for Reform Judaism, the lobbying arm of the Reform Movement speaks to this issue. Since its inception in 1873, the Union for Reform Judaism has spoken out repeatedly in support of a generous, fair and non-discriminatory immigration policy. Immigrants built this country and continue to bring new ideas, and infusions of cultural vitality.

Jewish tradition is clear on this issue. Leviticus 19:33-34: “When strangers sojourn with you in your land, you shall not do them wrong. The strangers who sojourn with you shall be to you as the natives among you, and you shall love them as yourself; for you were strangers in the land of Egypt.” This principle permeates Jewish tradition and is echoed 35 times in the Torah.

I believe that Jewish teaching would support a just and generous national immigration policy, one that supports a program of earned legalization for the nation’s undocumented immigrants.

Education and Judaism

Friday, September 11th, 2009

My contribution to the publication, “Cornelius Today.”

The People of the Book (Jews) consider education essential. In Genesis 18:19: ‘[Abraham is blessed because] he will instruct his children and his house after him to follow in God’s ways to perform righteousness and justice.’ The Talmud (a record of rabbinic discussions pertaining to Jewish law, ethics, customs and history) praises the sage Joshua ben Gamla (1st century CE) with the institution of formal and mandatory Jewish education. The Talmud goes as far as to state that the world continues to exist for the sake of learning and that even the rebuilding of the Temple in Jerusalem should not interrupt education classes. A Jewish blessing says: ‘Blessed are you Lord our God who has commanded us to engage with words of Torah.’ Learning is essential to the continuation of our society and our world. When we fail to live up to our educational obligations it is an affront to God.”

Lake Norman Rabbi: Where does prayer fit in with our lives and society?

Friday, August 28th, 2009

Where does prayer fit in with our lives and society?

The Talmud, a Jewish wisdom book states that one should recite 100 blessings daily; blessings for food, but also blessings for such things as the ability to see, and the ability to walk. Blessings upon seeing shooting stars and rainbows, smelling flowers and spices, seeing friends, putting on new clothes. Prayer helps us recognize the ultimate transcendent significance of that which we think insignificant. Prayer is not just for God. The medieval Jewish philosopher, Maimonides, understood prayer to have a profound effect on the individual. Abraham Lincoln once said: ‘We don’t pray so that God will be on our side. We pray humbly that we are on God’s side.’ When one is in the habit of praying regularly, regardless of location, the nature of prayer changes completely. In this way, Jewish prayer becomes more than an escape, a separated piece of one’s life. It becomes the lens through which we understand our life and world.”
— Rabbi Michael Shields, Lake Norman Jewish Congregation